You Know You’re Trans* When: #2699 The question “What’s your name?” makes you anxious.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2698 You have to stop yourself from automatically putting a bra on in the morning, because you’re not out at work.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2697 You go to type cosplay in your phone and it autocorrects it to cis play.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2696 You are glad that mens’ shoes are too big for you because you have an excuse not to wear them.
Q:My boyfriend is trans but I’m straight and I don’t know how I feel about it. Is it bad if I break up with him?
K: Hello! I hear this situation come up a lot and is something I have an opinion on that others may well disagree with. This isn’t an easy situation to deal with and is something I’ve spoken about with ex-partners of mine before as well (but mainly in light of what would happen if I ever de-transitioned).
Personally, I can fully accept and understand the reasons why you feel unable to continue with the relationship. You’re straight and therefore are attracted to women exclusively so therefore it makes logical sense why you could not be with a man.
However, if you stayed with him it would not mean you see him as a woman but you can look beyond gender because of the feelings you have for him. It definitely doesn’t make you a bad person if you can’t date a man and doesn’t make you any less straight if you continue being with him.
You just need to ask yourself whether you think you’re able to be with a man and are comfortable with it. Maybe give it some time to see how you feel. But what you ultimately decide to do, isn’t wrong.
Just make sure you handle the situation carefully and respectfully. If you do decide to end the relationship make sure he understands that it isn’t because he’s trans* but because he is a man.
Q:I just want to thank you for making this blog. I've been kinda struggling to kinda decide if I really am trans, and this blog kinda served as a "therapy" for that and made me feel better about this whole thing. It sounds kinda weird the way I worded it but that's anyway.
K: I’m glad this blog is helping you! Thank YOU! :)
Q:I've been struggling with my gender for a while; say about four years. It's been FtM to bi-gender and now, well, I don't know what I am.... I want a flat chest (currently a 34/36 DDD), lean muscles and broader shoulders. But I also want to keep some of my curves and my vagina and be a very feminine guy but be called by male pronouns. What do I even call myself?
K: To be honest, I don’t know. It’ll be easy for me to sit here and tell you not to worry about labels and just do whatever makes you happy/comfortable. But I know labels are important for a lot of people. It took me about 4 years before I had a label that I felt fitted. I often still question what I label my gender and feel as if there isn’t one that completely describes me.
My view is: just because you are happy with the genitals you currently have and wish to keep them, or are happy to have what is considered ‘the opposite’ for your gender doesn’t make you any less FTM. So I wouldn’t rule out FTM just on that basis. You can be male or a man and still be happy with having a vagina and some curves. Everyone’s transition is completely different and there is no ‘correct’ way to transition. A lot of guys (cis and trans*) have curves and are feminine and are okay/happy with that.
For me, gender is way more than what genitals you wish to have and how you present yourself. It’s how you feel and perceive yourself to be. Ask yourself if you’re a man, woman, neither, somewhere in-between or something else. I’m not expecting you to be able to answer that immediately but you need to have a think about your gender and how you feel, rather than how you dress. Ask yourself whether you’re comfortable with being seen as a woman or a man. If you find that you’re not comfortable with either, that’s fine. You’re one step closer to defining your gender.
What I found helped me was I Googled a ton of gender identities and went through them. It helped me to think about how I felt towards my gender. Reading about tons of identities introduced me to the language to talk about my gender that I never had before. Before, I knew how I felt but didn’t have the language to express it.
I’m sorry that I can’t be more helpful, but I hope this has some-what helped.
Q:I have a question that i've been dying to know, but i'm afraid to ask tumblr because they are going to think i mean to offend them, but i promise i don't. Okay, so i know not all women have vaginas, but why do some women who have a penis call it a vagina? I just think when trans woman's call their penis a clit, it has the potential to confuse people who have vaginas and are genuinely curious about themselves. And god knows health class are already not teaching young women about their anatomy
K: Many trans* people call their genitals whatever they are comfortable with. I personally go between vagina, penis, willy and a few others. Generally, I’ve not found that it confuses anyone because I only talk about my genitals with those who know what I have. So they’re aware that what I’m calling it is just what I’m calling it.
People will use whatever words/terms they are happy with and cause the lesser amount of discomfort.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2695 You feel like you’re having a baby by looking at ‘girl names’ in Google.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2694 Sometimes you are actually pretty happy about not having a dick so you don’t get random erections in public.
Q:(part 1) Hello! I'm working on a report for my college sociology course. We're supposed to interview someone who's life that is different from our own, and report on the experiences the person has had that we have not. I really want to interview someone who is trans* and expand awareness, even if it is for just my one class. I was wondering if you could ask your followers if one of them would be alright with being interviewed? If they message me I can give them the phone number of my professor
(part 2) so they can be sure this is legit, and my own skype account and email address. The interviewee would remain completely anonymous if they wished. I’d really appreciate this. (Preferably, I’m looking for someone who’s comfortable sharing possibly triggering experiences and maybe a photo of themselves with me). Thank you!
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2693 Somebody trying to comfort you asks you if there’s anything you want to get off your chest and you can’t help but think of your boobs.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2692 You wouldn’t mind people staring if you knew it was because of attraction.
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You Know You’re Trans* When: #2691 You don’t want to go out during summer time because it’s too hot to wear binders.