(part 1) Hello! I'm working on a report for my college sociology course. We're supposed to interview someone who's life that is different from our own, and report on the experiences the person has had that we have not. I really want to interview someone who is trans* and expand awareness, even if it is for just my one class. I was wondering if you could ask your followers if one of them would be alright with being interviewed? If they message me I can give them the phone number of my professor
(part 2) so they can be sure this is legit, and my own skype account and email address. The interviewee would remain completely anonymous if they wished. I’d really appreciate this. (Preferably, I’m looking for someone who’s comfortable sharing possibly triggering experiences and maybe a photo of themselves with me). Thank you!
i was just wondering.how to come out to my family. Maybe you can post this and some people can help me out. my parents are a bit religious and have had quite a bit of an issue when they found out i was gay/lesbian. i am ftm if that helps. i also have two siblings younger than 9 so that might make things harder but i just need help to come out as trans* i cant take it anymore hiding and pretending to be okay with myself. maybe you can provide links or suggestions or experiences or something.(1/2)
(2/2) i just need help. and i think the community on this website is truly amazing. please message me or comment please. thank you guys. -Austin
Why have you been so inactive the past couple of months?
K: Hey, I’ve been keeping up with running the blog when I can but as I’m expecting my first child next month I’ve been super busy. I also recently graduated from uni’ and moved house… so a lot has been going on.
Sorry that posts are some-what irregular but I’m getting through submissions when I can :)
Okay, so I want to come out (Im ftm) to my friends but Im really nervous. I dont think I have a reason to worry (Mosy of my friends are in the LGBT+ community), but still. Do you have any tips on how to go about telling them? Thanks for your time.
K: Hello! It’s good to hear that your friends should be supportive.
I personally feel that the best way is via a letter and direct them to resources or provide them yourself, so they can educate themselves (if they don’t have much knowledge). I also always tell people I come out to that I welcome questions because it makes them feel more at ease. No matter the question, unless I feel it’s too personal, I answer. I have sometimes corrected some things but done so politely (so I’m not attacking them because I understand they are not saying it to be hurtful etc) so they know what the correct thing to say is.
Maybe consider Facebook messaging them as a group? Some people may feel it’s a bit impersonal but it worked for me. I felt a bit odd handing them a physical letter, but if that way works better for you… then go for it.
My letter just contained a brief explanation of what it meant, which pronouns to use for me, what name to refer to me as and other information like that. Along with resources so they could go away and read up on it and then come back with any questions they have.
K: Trigger warnings are often mentioned before discussing a topic that contains themes that could potentially trigger people. You usually give a brief explanation of the trigger beforehand. So, for example, “Trigger Warning: Sexism.” When someone is triggered by the discussion or mention of something it causes negative reactions such as flashbacks to a time when they experienced it first-hand. This is why only a brief explanation is given so people can make the decision whether to continue reading or listening.
I don't think you can get pregnant while on testosterone. Testosterone is toxic in large amounts to a developing fetus, if you did happen to become pregnant and continued with the shots you would miscarry.
K: What you’re talking about is completely different and you are completely correct. The original anon’ was asking if it was possible to get pregnant while on T - which is entirely possible.
You are discussing whether it is possible to continue on with the pregnancy while on T - which is not possible.
You can get pregnant while on T but if you wanted to keep the baby then you would have to come off of T for the 9 months, like I did.
When I was in the early stages of pregnancy I was told by a few doctors that the testosterone would harm the baby and potentially lead to a miscarriage, if continued throughout. But as I told them that I hadn’t had a single shot since being pregnant I was then told the baby would be fine. Having just one shot would not necessarily lead to a miscarriage but it could, if I had a female fetus, masculinise it - according to the doctors I have seen. So it’s not that much of a worry if you’ve had one shot (according to my doctor, but it would need to be looked at) but you cannot continue on as normal with the shots.
To sum up: you can get pregnant while on T but if you wish to keep the baby then you need to come off T.
what are the chances of getting pregnant while on t?
K: I’m not exactly sure on the chances but it can happen. I know of a few people who have gotten pregnant while on T, it’s not uncommon. I technically didn’t get pregnant while on T but I did very shortly after missing an injection, and I was on T for over two years at that point.
You should always be careful and aware that there is some chance, no matter how slim.
yo regarding trigger warnings, I use tumblr saviour. If I list cats as a trigger, it will then block #cats, #cats tw, #cats fluffy rainbow cake etc., so could you tag posts "#trigger tw" instead of "tw trigger"
K: Hey, of course. I’ll start to use that tag straight away :)
I know you have a trigger warning up, but is there any way you could tag the more triggering posts? For instance, although as a trans-person I can relate to a lot of these, I'd rather NOT relate or remember/relive posts like "you know you're trans when you come out and your parents tell you politely to go die at war" or other similar painful unsupporting things. Just an idea.
K: Hey, this was considered back when I started the blog however it became problematic in several ways. The main one was the trigger warning would only be able to be put on at the end of the post because I would rather put on a trigger warning stating briefly what the subject matter is.
As the only doable way is to put it under the sentence it would defeat the object of having it in the first place. I understand completely that there is a lot of content on there that can trigger people but the most realistic way is to have a trigger warning on the blog, as a whole.
I’m sorry that this way isn’t possible but if anyone has any further suggestions on how to make trigger warnings more effective then I will happily look in them.
*Edit* - Apologies, I have just re-read this question through and I completely misread it. I will start tagging all posts I feel could trigger people by simply using the tag “trigger warning” and “tw”. I hope this is what you were asking for and that it helps you and others.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2673 You see “Mr. and Ms.” under the title option on a form and are about to click that when you realize it is for a married couple and not someone who identifies as both.
Can you be trans and not want to transition? I have some health issues and I'm worried T would make them worse. And beyond that I'm terrified of surgeries and don't want to have one unless I would die of I didn't. It kind of sucks but I have other ways of handling my dysphoria (binding being a big one)
K: Hey, certainly! Many trans* people do not medically transition, for various reasons, and it in no way invalidates their gender. If your health issues and fears are preventing you from medically transitioning then this in no way dictates your gender identity.