Q:Hi! I've been following this blog for a few weeks, and I need a little help. I've been using my chest binder recently and it's causing a lot of nip chafing. I can't exactly go to my parents to help, and I've tried finding solutions online but I can't seem to find any. I've tried using neosporin and gauze but it has't been helping. Do you have any advice? Thank you so much.
K: This used to happen to me a fair bit (mainly because I had my nipple pierced) and I found covering them with plasters helped a lot. If they are sore and cracking then it’ll also be worth putting moisturiser or something on them to help with any pain or discomfort.
Q:Do you have to feel like your assigned sex all the time to be considered cis? Mostly I feel like I dont really have a gender, but its uncomfortable for me to think abt what that might mean or what people might think. Gender doesnt feel like part of my identity. I dont know how being a girls supposed to feel. Sometimes I do wish I could alternate, girl/boy, but my androphobia makes being a boy hard & my girlfriend makes being a girl easy. Am I cis b/c of that & b/c gender doesnt mean much to me?
K: Hey, my definition of cis is someone whose sex and gender matches and they are happy to identify with their assigned gender, with no questioning.
What you’re describing sounds to me like you just don’t have a gender and you do not identify as anything particular, right now. My personal opinion would be, if you strongly do not associate yourself with your assigned gender then you are on some level not cis. You also say you wish you could alternate between being a girl and boy. If this is more than just ‘it’d be cool’ and you strongly wish you could, I’d also say this is pointing more towards you not being cis. However, that’s just how I see it and please do not label yourself something because someone tells you who they think you are.
Nothing makes you cis or trans* other than how you see yourself and are happy/comfortable with labelling yourself.
Q:So for a long time I've been exclusively attracted to women. I dared for while but nothing really stuck. Awhile ago, after a breakup, my best guy friend and I were talking and long story short decided to try dating. This is now the longest relationship I've been in and I completely love him. He accepts that I'm genderqueer and supports me completely. I'm still exclusively attracted to women, although he's my one and only (sorry ladies). He's like an exception. what sexuality would that make me?
K: Hello! I personally say it doesn’t make you any particular sexuality or change it. You have said you are only exclusively attracted to women but this guy is an exception. To me this shouldn’t change how you label or see your sexuality.
For example, I know a gay man who is currently dating a woman. He still identifies as gay because he is only attracted to men but has happened to find this one girl who he likes. He may or may not find other women he likes, in this way, in the future but for now he isn’t sure if he ever would so says she is his exception.
I say your sexuality is still the same unless you find yourself feeling attracted to more men.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2672 You’re really excited about your new name but disappointed that you don’t get to use it until you get up the courage to come out.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2671 You see an ad on the bus that says “Plan your transit trip today!” and you read “Plan your transition today!”
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2670 6 years of military salary gets blown on clothing and makeup when you try to fight it for 30 years and realize that all of the tattoos, muscles, motorcycles, bar fights, and combat you can bury yourself in will never be enough.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2669 You tell your parents that you’re still trans and you need help and they politely suggest you die at war.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2668 Your parents lecture you about the importance of privacy when you borrow your sister’s clothes (oblivious to the irony that they’ve taken away your bedroom door and curtains to raid your room every week to make sure you don’t have anything feminine).
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2667 You’re getting very good at rolling your dick up very small and putting it back in the plastic tube it came in after you pee.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2666 You’re in psychology class, and when the teacher asks what the difference is between sex and gender, your hand shoots up faster than the speed of light.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2665 Autocorrect doesn’t recognize your gender identity when you type it.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2664 Your girlfriend changes to a boyfriend and back several times a day.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2663 You submit several YKYTWs as a girl because you think there’s a majority of guys posting.
(Sender: Come on girls let’s get some more in!)
Q:If one of your posts WAS on tv, then can you at least tell us which one it was?
K: Hey, sorry it was a long time ago so I can’t remember what posts were shown on the show. I just remember seeing footage of the blog in general because I was so drugged up and recovering from top surgery.
I completely forgot about it being on the show until the message I got yesterday.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2662 You feel like you’re cross dressing when you wear a skirt (even though your biologically female).