You Know You’re Trans* When: #2689 Your fear and discomfort from almost having passed out is overcome by joy when your nurse says what happened to you is “more common in men”.
Q:i was just wondering.how to come out to my family. Maybe you can post this and some people can help me out. my parents are a bit religious and have had quite a bit of an issue when they found out i was gay/lesbian. i am ftm if that helps. i also have two siblings younger than 9 so that might make things harder but i just need help to come out as trans* i cant take it anymore hiding and pretending to be okay with myself. maybe you can provide links or suggestions or experiences or something.(1/2)
(2/2) i just need help. and i think the community on this website is truly amazing. please message me or comment please. thank you guys. -Austin
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2688 You’re still offered children tickets even though you’re 19 years old.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2687 Your cis friends are arguing whether getting kicked in the balls or punched in the boob hurts more, and you know the answer.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2686 Your boyfriend asks you your name every morning and you find it adorable.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2685 Your homeroom teacher asks who wants a binder and you almost jump out of your seat. Then you realise he meant the office supplies.
Q:Why have you been so inactive the past couple of months?
K: Hey, I’ve been keeping up with running the blog when I can but as I’m expecting my first child next month I’ve been super busy. I also recently graduated from uni’ and moved house… so a lot has been going on.
Sorry that posts are some-what irregular but I’m getting through submissions when I can :)
Q:why are you still using the asterisk after trans?? that's super shitty. you can literally google "the asterisk in trans" and it'll come up with a bunch of links you god damn weenies
K: This has been discussed at length. Please search in the blogs archive for all previous posts on this matter, you will also be able to find the voting poll where it was dealt with.
I have been made aware of a USA-based upcoming organization called First Step. Once set-up, they will be giving trans identified people ‘starter kits’. These starter kits will be for people who cannot afford things they need when they first come out. Contained in these starter kits will be a variety of things such as: clothing, binders, breast forms, packers, make-up and so on.
The starter kits cost nothing and are completely free to apply for. But so this organization can get set-up and running they are asking for donations. They accept donations of: clothing, make-up, binders, breast forms and anything else people may need when they first come out. First Step also accepts donations of money what will go towards purchasing these things to make up the starter kits. Any donations of money will also go towards shipping to help keep the costs down to the person applying.
Check them out here.
Q:Okay, so I want to come out (Im ftm) to my friends but Im really nervous. I dont think I have a reason to worry (Mosy of my friends are in the LGBT+ community), but still. Do you have any tips on how to go about telling them? Thanks for your time.
K: Hello! It’s good to hear that your friends should be supportive.
I personally feel that the best way is via a letter and direct them to resources or provide them yourself, so they can educate themselves (if they don’t have much knowledge). I also always tell people I come out to that I welcome questions because it makes them feel more at ease. No matter the question, unless I feel it’s too personal, I answer. I have sometimes corrected some things but done so politely (so I’m not attacking them because I understand they are not saying it to be hurtful etc) so they know what the correct thing to say is.
Maybe consider Facebook messaging them as a group? Some people may feel it’s a bit impersonal but it worked for me. I felt a bit odd handing them a physical letter, but if that way works better for you… then go for it.
My letter just contained a brief explanation of what it meant, which pronouns to use for me, what name to refer to me as and other information like that. Along with resources so they could go away and read up on it and then come back with any questions they have.
Good luck, I hope it all goes well!
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2684 You love airplane bathrooms because they’re gender-neutral.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2683 Taking a shower is stressful, not relaxing.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2682 You despise having spring allergies because your voice deepens.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2681 You add your new contacts in your phone with their name and gender.