Q:Queer and question is the same?
K: It’s just a little joke. We put “Queer-y” instead of “Query” (when someone has a query/question) :)
Hi! I’m working on a documentary about coming out of the closet in the digital age, and we’re currently looking for video submissions of folks’ coming out stories to be included in the doc. Your page is wonderful, and I was wondering if you could join us and help spread the word.
Q:Is binding with elastic (like a roll from a craft store or an elastic bandage) harmful? I know ace bandages are, but what exactly makes them dangerous--is it the material they are made of, or it is the wrapping-around-your-chest-tightly-multiple-times that causes damage?
K: I’m not too sure about elastic but my first reaction is it may not be the best idea to bind with it. Ace bandages are dangerous because the material has no ‘give’ in them. There have been many, many people who have broken ribs and having other serious injuries from binding too tight with bandages. It is much safer to purchase a proper chest binder as it is worn like a vest and has enough ‘give’ to not cause any damage. It is also difficult to adjust bandages as you can with a proper binder.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2625 You spend two days discussing with an Etsy seller what kind of underwear harness options they have for you and where your dick is going to hang in them.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2624 You order your first binder and you can’t stop checking the tracking link from USPS.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2623 Using a plural “they,” “them,” and “their” feels like a grammatical error.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2622 You call a gathering of you and your lady friends a “sausage fest”.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2621 You hear news of a trans* character in a mainstream TV show, and you first reaction is dread.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2620 Your boyfriend binds his chest and stuffs his pants, while you tuck in your pants and stuff your chest.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2619 You’re called a cross-dresser only when you stop cross-dressing.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2618 You almost get kicked out of the pool for being topless, even though you’re biologically male.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2617 You held in going to the bathroom for four hours at your own house because you’re afraid of your own genitals.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2616 It’s far too hot to bind in summer and everybody misgenders you as female.
You Know You’re Trans* When: #2615 You spend all morning looking up top surgery photos when you know you neither have the money nor the guts to go through with it.
Q:I am a girl, and I feel very attracted to trans* guys most of the time. I find they sometimes have more delicate features than cis guys, less body hair, I don't know what it is. Is it offensive to say I am attracted to trans* guys, like, would it bother you guys if you heard someone say that?
K: If I’m honest, I’m not quite sure how I would respond to that. I think the first question I would follow it up with would be, “How do you know they’re trans*?,” because generally you would not know unless they disclose it to you. Or unless you ‘seek out’ trans* guys which can be problematic. But generally, no, I do not get offended if someone is specifically attracted to trans* guys because people like who/what they like.